• One For The Wingmen (And Wingwomen)

    by Dr. Semone Rochlin
    on Mar 23rd, 2017

Choosing to have a breast augmentation is a big decision, and many women don’t like the idea of going through the process alone.

It makes sense, if you think about it. There will be questions about the surgery and concerns about her health and wellbeing. And, just like with any other medical procedure, a prospective Scottsdale breast augmentation patient may want to bring along a “wingman,” someone who can support her, encourage her, and remind her of things she might have forgotten.

While we normally speak directly to our prospective patients in this blog, we think it’s time to change it up and post one for the wingmen and –women who help our patients make the best decision for their bodies and themselves.Wingman

Why Am I Here?

It may seem odd or awkward to be in a cosmetic surgeon’s office for your friend or wife or sister or partner while she talks to a stranger about her body and what she wants to change about it. You love her just the way she is, and you may feel like encouraging her to explore her breast augmentation options says otherwise.

Rest easy, my friends. Being supportive of her decision does not mean that she thinks you wanted it all along. She knows you love her and that you are there as her support system, which shows her exactly that.

That is your primary role in the consultation process: support. You are there to reassure her that she is not making a huge mistake, but also that she doesn’t have to change if she doesn’t really want to. That being said, there is more to your Best Supporting nomination than just that. Your opinion is obviously important to her, or you wouldn’t be there in the first place. So don’t lead the discussion, but try to clarify her choices if she is unclear and add your opinion if you are asked for it.

What Do I Say, Exactly?

If you’re asking this question, or reading this blog, for that matter, you understand that the choice of whether or not to have the surgery is hers. That’s especially important, but when your opinion is asked, it can make it hard to find an answer beyond the supportive but unhelpful, “Whatever you want, it’s up to you.”

Essentially, you should be providing input on the sizes and shapes that she tries on when she asks you for it. Be nice, but be honest. If you think one option looks better or worse than another, speak up. If you think she may be unhappy with the outcome, that it may be too much or too little change, tell her so. She asked you there and asked your opinion, so she believes that what you think is important. You know her, you know what she likes and doesn’t like, you know how she lives and what she does. Think of her options in terms of how they will enhance or impede her goals, and you’ll be providing the perspective she needs.

Anything Else?

Yes, there is. Have you ever made a mental checklist of things you wanted to discuss at a physical, then walked out and realized you had forgotten to address some things? You are there to help with that list.  When she is discussing her concerns or questions with Dr. Rochlin, remind her to address things she’s spoken to you about but forgotten to ask. Clarity is important before a major surgery, and all her questions and concerns should be met.

While you’re reminding her to ask questions, ask yours as well. If you want to know what her recovery time will be, or what she can and can’t do after surgery, ask. You will need to know so that you can help out with things she won’t be up to doing, and, though it is her decision, it will affect you too. Dr. Rochlin will be happy to address your own concerns as well as your loved one’s.

Final Thoughts

Now that you know what to expect and what the boundaries are during the consultation, you are ready to assume your role as wingman. Dr. Rochlin, her staff, and you, want the best possible result for your wife/girlfriend/partner/sister/friend: to get what she wants out of her breast augmentation, so she can be more comfortable and more confident. In this position, you can help her do that by supporting her decision and, more importantly, supporting her when she needs you.

Author Dr. Semone Rochlin Dr. Semone B. Rochlin is a Board Certified General Surgeon specializing in Cosmetic and Reconstructive Surgery.

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